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When you’ve messed up and you asked God to forgive you and you thought everything is cool, but then a few weeks later you are in trouble because of what you did? How do you handle it esp. when the only reason you are in trouble is because of a breach of confidence from someone you really trusted. It happened to me.
I’m at this really strict christian school and I’m studying really hard. We have all these rules about guys and girls. I developed a friendship with the one guy, but it freaked him out at some point and he ran to the leadership with the whole story. All i wanted was his friendship and the leadership understood this, but warned me and told me that he was immature and rigid and legalistic at times. They told me that I must rather not develop a friendship with him at least until he is a little more mature. They also told me that it was the end of the matter and we won’t ever go into it again, but now they have contacted my parents a few weeks later and blew the story up and out of proportion. They are supposed to be men of God. This boggles my mind totally. I need some input and just something that will help me to see perspective again because this totally affects my relationship with God and the leadership.

sharla,

i hope you can talk to your parents about this situation in an honest and trusting way now that the leadership at your school has contacted them and that they will better agents of grace.

i’m sure this is a painful experience for you that you’d rather sleep through than live through, but keep in mind that even men of God are still [i:f8a23b4168]men[/i:f8a23b4168] of God—they are human beings, equally vulnerable to sin as you are. as hard as it may be, you can try with the Spirit’s help to forgive them if you feel they lied to or about you. also, be careful not to project their failings onto God, who is perfect.

in the meantime, watch for evidence of God’s mercy in your own life. we read part of the story on Sunday about David and Bathsheba and how God allowing the child that was a product of that relationship to become ill and die was an act of mercy (even though it was painful) toward David, who would not have to live his life in the presence of a child that reminded him how he had sinned against God. like David, you’ve confessed your sin and neither God’s justice nor God’s mercy will fail you.

is any of this helpful to you at all?

Yeah thanx You have really helped me to see it in a different light and from a better perspective. I know that I can get through this with God’s help and that He knows what I’m going through.